Your Ideal Partner
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How would you
describe the ideal girl of your dream?
"Oh, she has
got to be beautiful with a nice figure, having a sweet and sexy
voice, cheerful, gentle, considerate, kind-hearted, understanding,
independent, musically inclined, share a common interest of mine,
hmm… knows how to prepare nice food and… "
Ok, that is
enough. Now, do you think such a perfect person actually exists?
Well maybe yes maybe not. But if everyone were to nevertheless,
really have such a high expectations, love is certainly going to
be hardly visible in the air. Don't you think so too?
So, what makes
an ideal partner then? Well before we go on, perhaps it might be
good to know what an exact ideal partner are we discussing here?
A dating partner or a marriage partner? Or has this question never
even occurred to you before?
Ok, let us answer
the question again separately. Hmm… maybe we shall get the girls
to answer this time.
How would you describe an ideal dating partner?
would include, "Dashing with a nice body, full of gentlemanliness,
caring and considerate, having a good sense of humor, cheerful,
fun loving, adventurous, full of fun and excitement, loves me dearly
Ok now the second
question: How would you describe an ideal marriage partner?
would include, "Mature, got a sense of responsibility, cheerful,
caring, understanding, honest, kind-hearted, having a financially
stable income, knowledgeable, able to take good care of the family,
loves me dearly and etc"
Notice the difference?
An ideal dating partner and an ideal marriage partner is usually
a very different person, perhaps just very a little in common I
Well in a perfect
case, an ideal partner should of course be best, both a dating and
a marriage partner. Someone whom you enjoy dating, bringing you
lots of fun, joy and excitements; at the same time someone whom
is willing to share your problems and unhappiness, accepting all
your negative habits and faults; committed to bringing you happiness.
But again, does
such an ideal person exist? Can we really have both the pie and
the cake? Think about it. Are we somehow setting too high an expectation?
Unknowingly rejecting our chances? Losing the opportunity to be
in love? Unknowingly bringing unhappiness to your relationship,
yourself and your love? Hmm… well, do remember that we are afterall
just talking about ideal here. Something, which is good to have,
but not a must to have?
So before you
are going to start complaining again that life is so unfair to you,
ask yourself, "Have you really ever tried? Tried pursuing for happiness?"
Instead of always
picking on your partner's faults making life unhappy for both, have
you tried looking at the other beautiful side of them, their beautiful
qualities? Appreciating what you have already got? Tried improving
on yourself instead, to becoming a better lover; a more ideal lover?
Willing to open up yourself, giving both yourself and others a chance?
Remember, what you expect of yours or your future partner is equally
what he or she expects of you.
Going into a
relationship is never a game. It is a long-term investment, an investment
of love between the both of you. It is something which both have
to genuinely think through and plan far. What would actually come
after dating? Marriage is what I should suppose? Sharing the rest
of your life, your future happiness with that special someone?
Well, if nothing
were to go wrong in your relationship, your dating partner is eventually
going to become your marriage partner, your life partner. Can I
say so? Ok, to the girls, let me ask you a question. Would you share
your happiness with someone that is full of fun and excitement to
be with now, but deep down within yourself you know he is not going
to be a good husband, someone who would not take good care of his
So again, what
is your definition of an ideal partner? Someone whom truly love
you, willing to share your problems and unhappiness or…? Well, the
answer is within you. It has been with you all this while, only
you can find the answer to this question. Your happiness belongs
to you, nobody can decide for you. Be true to yourself, you should
know what you really wants.
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