Yourself Ready for Dating
by Jane Johnson
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Ten Ways to Get Yourself Ready for Dating
1) So what’s
it gonna be?
Decide on your
attitude … a positive attitude can make all the difference. If you
view dating or finding your soul-mate as a nagging problem that
has yet to be resolved … you effectively close down access for increased
possibilities to come in. By adopting an attitude of optimism you
create space for broader thinking and infinite possibilities.
2) What I
really want is…
What is your
primary aim for dating or in attracting a soul-mate? Define with
clarity what your purpose is. Clarity is what brings balance between
hope and fear. List 50 qualities you most want in a long-term relationship.
Check-mark those qualities that are non-negotiable.
Get clear about
your personal values. What is most important to you about how you
live your life? Your values are your personal operating system.
Use them as your decision making tool … which includes evaluating
if a relationship is right for you or not.
4) Yep …
What makes you
happy? What lights you up? What is the passion that fuels your dreams?
What are your strengths? What are your needs? Know yourself better
than you know anyone else. When you can easily and confidently talk
about “who you are” you become a magnet for what you want most AND
people will help you get it … because you have told them! You know
that feeling of satisfaction when you help someone get what they
want? Well others want to help you too! The clearer you are about
what you want … the more others understand and can help you get
self-care … it’s a wonderful thing!
Take care of
you first! Do things that make you happy and make you feel good.
Create reserves! When you are happy and healthy you have more to
share with others.
you for being my friend.
support. Assemble a group of amazing friends who want the best for
you and will be there to remind you how amazing you are. Having
supportive, positive people in your life is crucial to calling forth
the best in you.
that and what are they saying?
be your mirror. Try to be conscious of your feelings and when you
feel a “charge”. If you are happy and having great fun … look for
the mirror that person is holding up … the reflection is likely
those qualities about yourself that you enjoy most. Likewise, if
you are not happy with the reflection and feel a negative charge,
look for the mirror. How do those qualities show up in you? Awareness
8) Bye, Bye
Let go of the
past. Be emotionally available for a healthy, happy relationship
to come into your life. If you are holding on to past hurts or past
relationships that you wished you’d handled differently … let them
go. They are over. You have a chance to start anew and get exactly
what you really desire.
9) You are
You had a life
before you started dating, which may even be what attracted your
mate to you. Don’t lose yourself in a new relationship and forget
about your friends and all the things you enjoy doing. Keep doing
things that interest you and find things you enjoy doing as a couple.
10) So that’s
what that was about…
Be in relationship
learning mode at all times. What patterns of behavior show up in
your relationships? Examine all that didn’t work and look for new
ways to behave your way to healthy, happy relationships.
a certified life coach who has experienced the world of internet
dating. After a nearly 20 year hiatus from dating, she immersed
herself in the activity. The following are tips from her observations,
interviews and personal experiences. You can reach her at www.doingcoolstuff.com
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