If you are going through the emotional rollercoaster of a breakup, feeling pain, anger and depression, know this: You don’t need to suffer one more day over your ex! It doesn’t matter how long you have suffered, it is time to give up the pain and open up to a life...
Kiss – The act of caressing with the lips. An expression of love, it is usually regard as, an expression so great that could place the recipient into a state of complete heavenliness and bliss. The perfect kiss at the perfect timing could definitely spice up...
I received a request to blog about my thoughts and sentiments on this subject. What does it mean when a woman says “It’s too late” to a man? Is she telling her man that she has given up all hope? Sounds like it, doesn’t it? Well, it does have...
Top 10 Places to Kiss Your Love Behind their ear Tip of their nose Back of their neck Under their chin Curve of their waist Palm of their hand Sensitive Spot Their eyelids Tips of their fingers Small of their back Top 10 Places for Kissing In your bedroom At the...
Wondering how to be romantic and creative with your partner or date? Perhaps you are single and interested in dating someone and want to show your interest. Maybe you are in a committed relationship and feeling burdened by work and don’t have time nor the funds to...
Angel Kiss – A sweet, comforting kiss. Kiss your partner very gently, delicately on their lips or eyelids. Back Kisses – Remove your partners shirt and have them lie down on their stomach. Sit comfortably over your partners lower back and start kissing...
“If he comes we welcome, If he goes we do not pursue” Zen saying We all want love. We are all searching for some lasting relationship. Yet it always seems as if relationships are difficult, difficult to find, to keep and to enjoy. Though many do all they...
It is surprising how many writers, psychologists, or scientists have made it their life’s work focusing on the gender differences. In our male-dominated society it is no coincidence that men have undertaken the bulk of this work. They made an effort to help men and...
I asked Dave how he was doing since it was the anniversary of his wife’s death. He replied, “It’s rough, but what is even worse, is women won’t leave me alone! I don’t want to hurt their feelings but they phone me too so I can’t even have peace in my own home.” Dave...
Women in business and the professions continue to change the face of the North American economy. Women are starting more businesses than men and are twice as likely to remain in business than their male counterparts. Career women are thriving and are making a positive...
Actually, it’s pretty simple. Deep inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. How many times have men said to their wives, “If you would just trust me.” Many men wonder why it seems so difficult for their wives to do something so seemingly simple....
Women complain they can’t get men to talk. When time comes for intimate conversation, guys clam up, offer a few, indecipherable grunts and expect women to magically understand what’s going on. The number one complaint women have in relationships is, “I don’t know what...
Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, a day that each year puts fear into the hearts of men. Every year, you promise yourself that next year; you are going to do something different. If you still do not have any creative ideas for a special surprise, do not...
If you have the nagging feeling that your husband may be having an affair, this is the ideal time to confirm what you suspect. The Valentine’s Day gifts he gives or receives can provide you with tangible proof of his infidelity. If your husband has a lover he’s...
The relationship expert on i.village.com, I am the author of many books on relationships and Zen including Living By Zen, (Timeless Truths For Everyday Life), www.livingbyzen.com Some other books of mine include Zen And The Art of Falling In Love, (Simon And...
To love or not to love–Have you ever wondered what unconditional love means? Does it really exist? Or is it just one of those words which you read in romance novels or self help books. Perhaps it’s purely a myth. To be loved is one of the greatest gifts of life and to...
Emotionally healthy men and women almost always share their lives with lovers whose happiness is crucial to their own fulfillment — even if they failed to understand the reciprocal nature of mutual satisfaction while they were young. In our youthful years we may...
This may be the most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do. Your husband is...
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN? You’ll see him when you see him. If he wants to see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time for anyone that doesn’t have time for you. 2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL? There’s only one answer to this question: Because he didn’t...
Society’s current conception of the term “soul mate” is completely contrary to what the term really means. Imagine two gallons of water taken from the Atlantic Ocean. Both gallons consist of the same energy because they were both part of the same ocean. Yet each...
If you find yourself laying in bed at night alone and feeling lonely and wishing that there was someone next to you, take comfort in the fact that most, if not all, single people feel that way at some time or another. It is not at all uncommon, but it can be a problem...
Here are some very simple rituals, some old, and some new that might help you achieve your romantic intentions. A bouquet of roses set in the southwestern corner of your bedroom is thought to attract love. To prevent a lover from straying, light a green candle to St....
How far can you afford to bend your values to preserve your relationship? How far can you go in giving yourself up to avoid losing your partner? How much of yourself can you afford to sacrifice to not lose someone you love? How do we find the balance between...
I received a question from a male reader that goes like this: “How do we know the other person likes you before the 2 of us can progress to the next stage? What are the actions/reactions to look out for?” Guys, although women are commonly compared to water...
Who Is Some Who Loves You? 1. Someone who sees the best in you. If you were lucky enough to grow up with healthy parents, you have experienced the feeling of having someone who has always looked at your good qualities. Many of us missed that experience. You will be a...
Single moms, more so than anyone, have to be exceedingly careful about the type of man they select as life-long partners. No sensible woman wants to be judged soley on her appearence or sex appeal, right? Moreoever, who would even want a man mostly interested in sex...
First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity. The biggest “cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking...
I’m a sucker for romance. I love movies where boy meets girl, boy loses girl and, against all odds, they find their way back to each other. Or films about star-crossed lovers, as in Bridges of Madison County, who return to their separate lives forever changed. In real...
The most sought after human experience among singles is definitely love. Singles worldwide turn to the growing number of online dating services with escalating memberships. E-dating is the new growing love economy. According to a May 2004 report released by the Online...
Stressful relationships are often not a result of a couple not being simpatico. They are often due to the stress and strain caused by outside non-relationship factors. There are however, some basic relationship techniques you must work at. Yes, you work at a...
Ultimately, you want a partner you can be your true self with, a partner who will treat you with love and respect. The subconscious social conditioning we receive to get or capture another causes us to fail and to string ourselves along, while we simultaneously hide...
Katheryn and Mathew, both in their 50’s, have been together for two years. Both have been previously married and divorced. When they met, they fell madly in love, which lasted for a few months. Then the conflicts started. Both Katheryn and Mathew left their marriages...
One thing I know about rejection is that it feels real. And even though it rarely is real, it sure feels that way. Why is it rarely real? First let’s look at – what is rejection? It looks like someone decides they don’t want to spend time, money, or...
There is no doubt in my mind that the quality of love is the #1 quality that God would like to get worked into our souls and personalities. Even nonbelievers, atheists and agnostics can see the power of love and how it has the ability to change people and change lives...
The American Poet Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “What lies behind us and what lies before us, are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” Little did he know that his quote would sum up the past, present and future of women. He also didn’t...
Just when I have something figured out, along comes another how-to-article telling me how to be or do something better or even change my entire life. No matter where I turn, I am constantly reminded that I am not good enough in more ways than one. I am not smart...
“When you truly look for me, You will find me.” – Kabir We all want love. Then, when we get it, we become afraid and start to run in the opposite direction. On the one hand we are searching for love, searching for some lasting relationship. On the...
Feeling uncomfortable in the stomach, cold sweaty palm, trembling of legs, losing the ability to think correctly when approaching a girl? Hate yourself for not able to overcome this problem? Oh– please do not feel so. Believe me, you are not the only one facing this...
We’ve all looked back on past relationships and said, “What was I thinking”. Problem is, you weren’t thinking. You were caught up in the chemistry and the wonderful feelings of the moment that you chose to overlook some warning signs that there may be trouble up...
Dear Candace, My girlfriend and I recently split up. I called her a few days ago and she said that it was over and that she did not want to discuss it with me anymore, that I had gotten on her nerves to the point where she didn’t see any point in communicating...
Leaving an abusive relationship is difficult, but being alone can feel worse. All your happily married friends are still happily married, and here you are suddenly single. It’s a huge adjustment. Even though you’ve triumphed by getting out of a bad situation, there’s...
Joke from a Woman to another Woman “Some husbands are living proof that a woman can take a joke!” Joke from a Man to another Man; “Men are Vain, They will check themselves out in the mirror.However women are ridiculous; they will check their...
You are in love and it feels wonderful. This love is different and you are prepared to do anything to make it last. To prevent this ship from sinking you work hard to steer this relationship into a safe harbor. In the process you lose yourself and your romantic...
You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to...
No matter how you want to spin it, beautiful people are just that, beautiful. However, to what degree does it play into you finding your perfect match? Seemingly, most of us are engulfed by a blitzing media that sells everything from lingerie to exotic cars with some...
“How can I know when I’m really in love?” asked Ruby, a client of mine. “How can I know if what I feel for Jim is really love or just infatuation? How can I know if this feeling will last?” Ruby and Jim had been dating for 11 months and...
You’ve been together several months, but something doesn’t feel quite right with your partner. You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it jealousy, your imagination or just apathy that is the result of long-term complacency with each...
Isn’t that the million dollar question? How can I tell if this is the one? Is this one my soulmate? How will I know when I find the right one? There is no magic answer, but I can tell you what seems to work. I asked a psychic one time if a certain person was my...
Feeling insecure in a relationship is a lot like a headache: most of us experience the pain of it at one time or another and its curable once we know what causes it and what to do to avoid it. This pain is most acute in romantic relationships. They can really bring...
How much energy do you spend trying to get what you want from your partner? Think about it for a moment – how much of your thinking time is spent on what to say to your partner to get him or her to be the way you want him or her to be? Many of us spend a lot of...
First, put yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity. The biggest “cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking...
Falling in love is a process that one cannot stay away from. In life, many of us has experienced going through a love relationship. Some are fortunate enough to have found the most perfect partner while some find it so heart-breaking and physically exhausting...
Some soul mate couples refuse to grow. They refuse to resolve each of their core issues, which are the true sources of their personal pain. As a result, those soul mates are lost to each other for this life. This is a sad choice for both of them. And then there are...
Flirting is as old as man. In the past, flirting was viewed with disgust and a flirt was considered out of tune with morality. But things have since changed. Today, flirting is glamorized. A flirt is considered “cool” and flirting is regarded as a...
All partnerships, and all relationships for that matter, go through five predictable stages. Knowing these stages is like having a map that will help you to accurately assess where you are and where you can go. All partnerships, and all relationships for that matter,...
“Are You Fit To Love” is the most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are the cause of pain and struggle. Single or not, societal standards convince us that we can have it...
Dear Candace, I’m 35 years old and ready to open my heart to a true partner. I have honored myself in the past by leaving relationships that weren’t right, yet I wonder if my idea of how I think it is supposed to be is preventing me from creating what I...
Usually we enter relationships hoping they will make us happy. We hope that this person is the right one, that we aren’t repeating mistakes of the past, and that we will finally receive the love, support, companionship and admiration we’ve been waiting for. Each...
Fight or flight – our automatic response to danger. When fear is present, adrenaline pours into our system to prepare us to fight or flee – from the tiger, the bear, the lava from the volcano–. Fight or flight – today we automatically respond this...
In my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment. These individuals generally say that they want to be in a loving relationship, yet they keep picking “the wrong people.” Susan, 38, sought my help because she was in two relationships...
Dear Candace, I am in the process of getting divorced and have met a very wonderful man who touches my soul. I am scared of a relationship because of a fear of not being perfect, and my main fear is that of a broken heart. I am wondering how this relationship will...
We are meant to live a life of love. However, no matter how successful some are in other aspects of their lives, they don’t feel it’s realistic to have the same success in love. But being in love is the most realistic thing you can do. It energizes your...
Breaking up. The End. The journey is over. You feel rejected. Hopeless. You don’t want to go back in the jungle again. You may even have that dread feeling of failure. Suddenly, all the love songs at the radio seemed to have been written for you. You want to stay in...
Loneliness and separation are the real illness of our times. While we urgently need true communication, instead we often find withdrawal, games and lies. This is so widespread it is taken as the norm. So often we come away from one another filled with...
When It’s Really YOU and Not, Me We’ve all heard the popular rejection, “It’s not you but it’s me.” In actuality, we tend to internalize the statement to mean, “There’s something about you that I cannot seem to get...
Personal or business coaching has helped thousands change their lives and achieve their goals. Yet, for the sceptics it still is a fuzzy concept with little recognition for its benefits. Think of Celine Dion, who with a voice coach claimed world fame. Her coach...
Can Men And Women Be Friends? Or When Harry Met Sally Did He Really Just Want to Jump Her Bones? Men and women can’t really be just friends, can they? Of course not. There’s always that pesky sexual tension to contend with. And what about the spouse, spousal...
How do I draw a soulmate into my life? You don’t. I’ve read plenty of books that tell you how to do it, but I don’t believe for a minute that you can place your cosmic order and your perfect ideal twin soul is going to materialize just like that at...
If your husband is faithful, you have much to be thankful for. Faithful husbands are in short supply. While 3 out of 4 wives assume their husbands are faithful, only 1 wife in 4 can truthfully make that claim. According to statistics, 3 out of 4 men cheat on their...
Many of us have some very definite ideas about anger. We see anger as destructive and hurtful. We consider it to be an inappropriate response. We equate anger with violence. In short, we feel that anger is simply wrong, and that when we experience anger, there’s...
1. How do I know when I’ve met my Soul Mate? There will be an instantaneous familiarity, a recognition, and an innate understanding and connection from the beginning that cannot be described logically. You will be psychically attuned to each other, and will feel so...
Relationship Advice: 3 Kinds of Love There are three kinds of love: love as a feeling, love as a decision/choice, and love as an action. The confusion of these three kinds of love is the cause of much needless pain and suffering. In an attempt to clear up this...
Always feeling insecurity over your love relationship? So much so to the extent of even feeling suspicious, doubting your partner’s love for you? Well though it might not exactly always be your fault but still I must say, this is the beginning of a very...
Have you ever fallen in love with two different persons at the same time? Falling in love with two different persons whom both have the same feeling for you too? Well, there is actually nothing wrong with that. In fact I would say that it is something very normal,...
How would you describe the ideal girl of your dream? “Oh, she has got to be beautiful with a nice figure, having a sweet and sexy voice, cheerful, gentle, considerate, kind-hearted, understanding, independent, musically inclined, share a common interest of mine,...
