About Soul Mates
by Barbara Rose
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About Soul Mates
1. How do
I know when I’ve met my Soul Mate?
There will be
an instantaneous familiarity, a recognition, and an innate understanding
and connection from the beginning that cannot be described logically.
You will be
psychically attuned to each other, and will feel so alive in each
other’s presence. It’s as if when together, you feel more enhanced,
alive, and excited!
You can communicate
on many levels at the same time, often “tuning into each other”
and “knowing” what is going on with the other person.
There will be
a shared sense of purpose. A deep love, and a feeling of “knowing”
each other on a soul level. It will feel as if you are with your
true counterpart on every level.
All of the feelings
are mutual. There is a deep soul-level bond, and a deep feeling
of having much in common on many levels.
can be extremely intense, or in some soul mate relationships, there
is more of an intellectual stimulus, and many times it is both combined.
There is chemistry,
passion, electricity, and meaning. This is one relationship that
will most likely be the most transformative one in your life, and
one that you will always remember, no matter what happens.
2. If I’ve
really met my soul mate, why is the relationship so difficult?
Soul Mate relationships
are karmic. You have made a soul “agreement” to come into this life
to meet again to uproot and transform each of your deepest healing
and growth issues.
anyone is faced with having to face and heal eons of negative patterns,
there is going to be deep resistance on the ego level.
It is vastly
difficult to face what we really came into this life to heal. It
will be your soul mate, or “twin flame” that will trigger your deepest
growth issues to bring them up to the surface to be healed once
and for all.
this happens, there is turbulence within the relationship, because
there is inner turbulence within each person as they are facing
their deepest issues to heal them.
This is a deeply
transformative process, and a deeply difficult one. However, once
you each see that you are triggering growth within the other, and
view it as the true gift that it is, then perhaps some of the resistance
as long as either one or both of you RESIST your growth issues,
and resist facing them down to heal them, there is going to be a
great deal of difficulty due to this resistance. However, once the
resistance stops, and you face what needs to be healed within, then
all of that turbulence within the relationship also dissipates,
because you are no longer “fighting the river,” but are “going with
the flow” where your can truly soar once you stop fighting everything
you know deep within your heart to be true.
a tremendous amount of self-honesty, and courage!
The truth of
this matter is that once each of you are true to yourselves, and
are completely honest with Self, then the difficulties within the
relationship will also be transformed.
HONEST is the key, and that honesty MUST be to Self first, and then
to the other.
3. Why is
it that many soul mates don’t stay together?
In every case
I have seen, it was FEAR of being true to Self, and displaying that
truth to the other.
One or both
people refused to face what they needed to face to heal and grow.
There were often issues stemming from ego that never made their
way into the heart of the person.
Ego can NEVER
be the foundation of a relationship – only TRUTH can. Truth is the
ONLY thing that can sustain a relationship. If one person is avoiding
their self-truth, then they are avoiding their growth agreement
for this lifetime.
It is for this
reason that most soul mates do not stay together. The relationship
must be completely genuine. Each person can make many mistakes,
however, where there is a refusal to go within to the heart center,
and be completely true and honest with Self about what you are feeling
inside, how can ANY relationship flourish? So this is the primary
reason as to why soul mates to not stay together.
forbids that one stay with the other if either refuse to heal and
grow, be honest, and fulfill their soul agreement.
was made TO GROW! So when that is not happening, sadly both people
4. How can
I turn the dynamics of this relationship around for lasting happiness?
The only way
you can turn the dynamics around is when you turn YOURSELF around,
and get REALLY HONEST.
If you feel
something, say it. If you have something that is upsetting you,
discuss it! If you feel confused, scared, blocked, or lost, talk
is the KEY.
You have to
STOP ALL GAMES, manipulation, defenses, and be AUTHENTIC and genuine
with yourself, and with the other person.
Once you do
this, and genuinely communicate what you are feeling, THEN you can
have a chance to turn it all around for lasting happiness, and love.
5. Why do
many soul mates continually return to each other?
love is REAL. It is true, and it NEVER dies. You can be apart for
decades, and the love will still be deep inside, even if you are
living a full life on the outside.
True love IS
met your match, you never forget the person. You can go on, and
you can even be with other people, however, there will always be
a special place in your heart for your soul mate.
to try to make it work out. Then the growth issues come up, which
leads to turbulence within the relationship. Then they part, avoiding
the growth lessons. Then they miss each other and return, after
seeing that it wasn’t all that terrible to begin with, it was just
a growth process!
If you find
this happening in your life, take a look at whatever it is that
you have been avoiding out of fear. Once you can get really honest
with yourself about this, then you CAN be with someone that is your
true match. Healing and honesty is required – that is the ONLY way
it can ever work out.
6. How can
we break old negative patterns between us?
You can only
break the old negative patterns within YOURSELF. It is a BIG mistake
to focus on the “issues” the other person has. This is avoiding
Face YOUR fears,
issues, and ask yourself what you really want!
What do you
want in a relationship? Talk about it with the other person!
What areas would
you like to come to an agreement about? Talk about it with the other
What have you
been afraid of? Talk, talk, talk and COMMUNICATE!
It takes conscious
effort to make this profound relationship work! It is SO worth it,
once you can come to an agreement based on honesty!
That is the
key to it all – it is in daring to expose how you feel, what you
want, and even saying if you’re not sure – it’s all okay as long
as it is completely honest!
Also see if
there is a Higher reason why you chose to meet in this life. Is
there something you can be teaming up to work on together? Do you
share a common vision to make this world a better place?
So MANY of the
“problems” CAN be cleared up once you make a conscious effort to
really connect and communicate – HONESTLY!
If you have
a disagreement – BIG DEAL! Everyone has disagreements! Just talk
it over, and come to an agreement, share your views, and don’t run
So many times
genuine communication can really clear up so much! THAT is why honest
communication is the key! It is not to drag you down, it IS to lift
you BOTH up to an authentic place where you CAN resolve things between
you, as long as you don’t run away, and really want to resolve them.
You CAN break
the negative patterns this way, and that is why this relationship
entered your life – so you can both heal, grow, and be authentic
knowing that anything can be resolved – you just have to want to
come to a mutually agreeable resolution, and then, you can.
7. If we’re
apart, and miss each other, what will it take to make it work?
Time. Many times
people are not ready to face their deepest issues at the same time
others are. Sometimes certain issues really need YEARS to be worked
through. It is a growth process not a one time event.
may not get back together. That is something you have to come to
terms with. You BOTH have to want to get together and make it work.
All you can
do is become your own highest and best. You can’t “wait” for the
other person. You MUST live your life to its fullest, in every area.
Sometimes the time apart is the greatest gift! It can bring the
truth up to the surface within each person, and if that truth means
that you really do love each other, and want to be together, you
can both make it happen.
If the love
is real, it never dies.
Your life, however,
is about really facing YOURSELF, and in that process, if you find
that you do want to be together, life has a way of working it out.
You have to express that desire, honestly.
Trust that it
all works out for the best. Live and become your highest and best.
If it is meant to be that you do end up together, that truth WILL
come out in the end. It always does.
Be REAL – with
YOURSELF, that is the only way you can ever be real and make it
work with the other person if/when you ever do reunite. Trust there
IS a Higher reason for it all – it is growth!
8. Did you
ever have a soul mate relationship that ended? And if yes, how did
you deal with it??
Of Course I
did! At first it was difficult, because the good memories were powerful
and dear. However, as I grew with a lot more self love and self
value, I began to slowly lose my interest in being treated in a
manner that was far less than I deserved.
I’m not bitter
or angry at all. Nor am I sad anymore. I simply view the person
with loving compassion, and I am passionately involved with all
I do. It took about 6 weeks to feel fully free of that bond. I just
lost interest as I grew. There are no hard feelings at all. I simply
view the situation as one of the greatest growth gifts of my life,
however, I am glad it’s behind me.
By Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved.
Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author
of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being
THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming
Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group
publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self
Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual
consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings
through information to create the highest vision of your life, and
our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published
articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled
private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across
enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help
you become your highest self, visit Barbara’s website: http://www.borntoinspire.com
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