of a Broken Heart
by Candace Doyle
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of a Broken Heart
I am in the
process of getting divorced and have met a very wonderful man who
touches my soul. I am scared of a relationship because of a fear
of not being perfect, and my main fear is that of a broken heart.
I am wondering how this relationship will work out and how I should
handle it so that no feelings will be hurt. I want to be with this
man. Will I be? Will it be a forever relationship? Thank you. ~
blessings to you precious one. You ask how to have this relationship
without any feelings being hurt. Well, you will have to roll yourself
up in cotton batting, lock yourself up in a closet and not have
contact with anyone or anything, and then not allow your mind to
think any thoughts. Perhaps then, with a little luck, you may not
have your feelings hurt, and yet, even that is probably not possible.
“So, in the
prospect of beginning a relationship, what you must do is expect
and look forward to the opportunity to have your feelings hurt so
that you can come to know yourself better, know the areas where
you are challenged and pray that those places become healed and
whole and filled with faith and love rather than fear, as they are
now. To have a fear of your heart breaking will allow you first
and foremost to focus on your heart breaking rather than to focus
on your heart opening and allowing more love, more joy, and more
capacity for love to be within you.
“The fear of
a broken heart is what will create a broken heart. Nothing else
can actually do it. You can be abandoned, abused, violated, unloved,
rejected, and none of that need cause you to have a broken heart;
it is how you handle the experience as to whether or not you will
experience a broken heart. You can also have lots of love, support,
and kindness in your life and still walk around believing that your
heart is broken or will be broken. It is strictly your perspective
and your experience of this situation that will cause you to have
a broken heart or not.
“To want to
be with this man is one thing and to have it be what is best for
you may be something different altogether. For you, the most important
thing is to pray only for that which is in your highest good and
to avoid the prayers that specifically ask to be with this person
forever. You cannot focus on or worry about the future. It is something
that is ever-changing based on your own evolution and where you
are in your life. Something may be perceived as forever and then
you could shift your perspective in an afternoon and change the
course of your life entirely. The future is not important; it is
the now that is important. How do you perceive now? How do you love
now? How open are you now to that which is for your highest good?
Allow yourself to pray for peace and openness within your own heart
so that you can receive and give love in the ways that you truly
desire. That is your birthright, and if you truly want it, it will
you precious one. Amen."
by A Course in Miracles, Candace Doyle has been hearing and sharing
the Voice of the Holy Spirit within her as a discernible, conversational
Voice for over 10 years. Candace and her husband, DavidPaul, are
the authors of The Journey That Never Was, a guide to hearing God’s
Voice regardless of one’s faith, religion, or personal beliefs.
For more information, please visit their website at www.rightmindedness.com
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