Soul Mates: Will you grow or stagnate?
by Barbara Rose
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Soul Mates: Will you grow or stagnate?
Divine Source through Barbara Rose
Some soul mate
couples refuse to grow. They refuse to resolve each of their core
issues, which are the true sources of their personal pain. As a
result, those soul mates are lost to each other for this life. This
is a sad choice for both of them.
And then there
are the others, and I do hope you are one of them, who consciously
choose to say: No matter how long it takes, I will heal within,
and I know that as long as I put forth a grain of effort each day,
eventually I will walk the sands of the most peaceful beach with
my true match by my side.
Which do you
It is only your
For if one of
the soul mates chooses to grow and the other does not, they must
part. Spiritual, universal law forbids that one soul mate may evolve
and remain with the other if the other chooses not to evolve. That
is the only reason many soul mates do not share the remainder of
their lives together.
But they never
forget each other. They long for each other, and they yearn and
cry for each other in the dark of night when not another soul sees
to grow is scary; it is not easy, yet it can and must be done. It
will be done. No matter how many lifetimes it takes, eventually
you will choose to grow.
After all, what
is being asked of you is what you have actually asked the other
to come into your life for: To stand by your side and be there for
you, so you know that there is one special soul who is there for
you always and in all ways; to comfort you when you feel afraid;
to be your best friend when the rest of the world turns its back;
to challenge you to be your best even as you are loved and accepted
you when you display your worst.
This is a gift.
This is rare. Yet this is what you are entitled to, for you have
chosen to grow. You have chosen to heal, and you have done so for
Did you ever
look within and actually feel afraid of your own individual power?
Did you ever truly know, somehow, somewhere, that there is something
you came into this life to do, something so beyond the ordinary
expressions of individuality of the masses on this planet that you
turned away, turned away from your very self?
And when you
met your true match, did you see that your soul mate also has an
inherent gift for humanity that is unlike most of the masses inhabiting
the planet? Did you consider that, like you, your soul mate was
at one time afraid of his own power, his own potential - and needed
the unconditional acceptance and support of his true match? Did
you consider that, to feel secure, he needed to turn to the only
one who could understand him and be supportive when the rest of
the masses simply could not relate to him?
That is why
I say that only about two percent of human beings are actually with
their true soul mates in this life now. These are the people who,
although not better than the others, have more to contribute to
and for the others. They do not have many friends because there
is not another except their soul mate to whom they can truly relate.
When you meet
your soul mate, you recognize a quality, gifts, potentials, and
contributions to humanity and to this universe that the vast majority
of others cannot fathom, nor would they care to.
You have chosen
to meet to support each other, to be the best friend, the one who
understands. You can show every side of yourselves to each other,
and it will always be perfectly all right. Soul mates cannot deceive
or hide from each other because they can see right through each
Your soul mate
feels your energy. You communicate on a spiritual level that is
difficult to describe; you have an innate, intuitive, psychic connection.
You “know” the
other, but your knowing is much more than an understanding; as rational
as you try to make it all, you cannot come up with any logical explanation.
On the spiritual,
nonphysical side, where your souls exist, your higher selves, you
see the colors in your energy patterns change, and this is communicated
to you in your physical life. This concept is still too foreign
at this point in human evolution for most people to understand.
To put it simply, your spiritual selves “see” what you are going
In this physical
world, when you look at the face of the one you know and love, you
can often tell from their expression what they are thinking or how
they are feeling. It is the same in the nonphysical side, only it
happens with energy patterns of light and color.
So you cannot
fool one another. Your growth has to be genuine. As you grow, you
feel better about yourself. You also see that your perfect match
is right there, has never left your side and never will, as long
as you continue to grow, even if only one grain at a time.
* The grander
purpose of the soul mate reunion.
As the grains
of sand accumulate, the higher or grander purposes of the union
with your soul mate become more obvious to you both.
- although you may try to look away, afraid of the light on the
path you have chosen to take - that those reasons are, in fact,
your truest reasons for coming into this life. You realize that
you are more than your own personal challenges and growth efforts;
you are your essence, and your essence is here on Earth at this
precise time and place because it is needed. You are needed, together.
If you look
closely, as you would under a microscope, you will see that one
half of the soul cannot ever achieve, contribute, or bring forth
the results it can when both halves are combined. You are distinct
in each of your roles; distinct in each of your vast talents and
abilities; yet, you share a common vision. Only when your efforts
are combined will you succeed in achieving the purposes you strive
to attain. How can you bake bread without water? How can you bake
bread without flour? The flour and water must be combined.
each soul mate carries the substance that, when combined with the
other, produces the results which shall contribute to this universe
the very reasons why you each chose to be born into this life.
appear to be simple, but it is actually quite complex, involving
billions of years and billions of energies all working together
for the creation of the greater good. Even so, you and your soul
mate, combined, are an important part of the evolution of the human
species. One soul is no better than another. Every human being is
needed to help the species progress.
When you turn
away from your own growth, all of humankind pays a great price.
As you recognize this, after denial, after trying to run, after
all of this nonsense, you say inwardly, “I can’t lie to myself anymore,
I can’t run away anymore, because I know I will regret it all the
days of my life.”
So you decide
to be all you came into this life to be, to be the dearest and best
friend to your soul mate; for who other than the one who shares
your same energy could better understand your every nuance?
You agree now
that you have a purpose. Your first purpose is to grow and heal
individually. Only then will your larger purpose will be made real.
The path shall be very clear. There will be no ambiguity for either
of you. You will each know what you are here on this Earth to do.
You will each clearly see how perfectly your purposes blend.
You will also
come to feel a deep appreciation of how special and rare it is to
find a true friend, to have someone in your life whose hand you
can always hold no matter what life brings. Their solitude shall
always bring you solitude of your own; their comforting and smiles
shall bring you warmth; and their bodies shall always feel as soft
and as comfortable as your own skin.
This is the
bliss of the soul mate reunion. This is the paradise, the gift,
of living in a physical life, creating your own heaven on Earth,
as you reach deep within to unleash and finally clear the negativity
that previously held you back, the negativity you have surely outgrown.
You will find
that neither of you will allow the other to give up, give in, or
settle for being less than your very best.
Yes, you can
have bad moods. Yes, you may act like two year olds and throw temper
tantrums, but as people with responsibility toward yourselves and
ultimately toward the advancement of humanity, you will not permit
each other to grow complacent or languish in laziness.
So you may find
that each of you will always be eager to show the other all you
are doing, and this brings joy and excitement into your relationship.
When you stop
running, you find freedom and true inner peace.
There is that
old saying, “You can run, but you cannot hide.”
You may run
from your soul mate, you may run from the knowledge of your potential
and the inherent gifts you chose to be born into this life to give,
but you cannot hide from them. They will always exist within your
heart, your mind, and your conscience; and the day will come - perhaps
on your last day on this Earth, perhaps this evening - the day will
come when you will know who you are, who your soul mate really is,
and why you are here. Imagine the joy and exuberance that await
you as you come out of hiding, when you stop running, when you look
beside you and see your treasure, your gift, the one person who
will never let you down. The one person who sees, who knows, who
accepts all of you, who shares so much of you. That one person patiently
waits for you to allow your best to flow from your being, waits
for you to be who you really are.
Nothing less. Just pure you. This is freedom. This is a gift.
This is your
gift to humanity and to this universe: to be you, and to treasure
every moment. Release the fear. Be free. Hold nothing back. As you
and your soul mate see each other, you recognize how fortunate you
are to be able to journey through this life together, for as you
know, there are only a few souls to whom you can truly relate. When
you have found one another, be glad, and then be all you came here
to be. Be yourself, and your soul mate will remain by your side,
still doing his own work, in his own way, expressing his own individuality.
of the soul mate union works this way:
His issues trigger
then challenges him to grow.
Your inner peace
must come from your own individual healing, not from the healing
of your soul mate. Your peace comes from within. It is from within
each of your souls that your deepest truths and life purposes must
be revealed, expressed, accepted, understood, and nurtured - first
by yourself and then by your soul mate. Once your truths come to
the surface, you will find that the love and bond you share will
sustain you through the difficult process of individual growth and
healing. As you achieve the personal healing of your deepest growth
issues, you will feel inner peace. Then, together, you will experience
the treasured bliss of the soul-mate union. After all of the turmoil,
you will look back and realize that the process was necessary for
healing, so you could, in fact, remain together and once again create
your own heaven on Earth.
By Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved.
Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author
of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being
THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming
Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group
publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self
Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual
consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings
through information to create the highest vision of your life, and
our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published
articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled
private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across
enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help
you become your highest self, visit Barbara’s website: http://www.borntoinspire.com
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