to Get Over an Ex When You’re Still In Love
by Barbara Rose
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to Get Over an Ex When You’re Still In Love
- First, put
yourself in the opposite position: If YOU didn’t want to be with
someone, and let him or her know it, what would you expect the
other person to do? Hopefully let go, and move on with dignity.
- The biggest
“cure all” every time you miss them, or are thinking about them
with sadness, is to VIVIDLY remember the times they treated you
like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?” When
the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace
the old pattern of putting them on a pedestal when they treated
you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you
to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.
- Every time
thoughts about them suddenly come into your mind, do the above,
AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and
life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the
power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that
every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.
- Really TRUST
that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and
if you can remember a time when you were sad about something,
only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation
worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help
you realize that this situation is no different.
- View the
other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize
that they did the best they were capable of, and if their best
was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are
out of your life!
- Get deeply
and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most
powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention
on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant
and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives
- Every time
you start to think about them, and begin to play your drama of
the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW,
and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and
expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don’t
NEED them at all. YOU are the gift. They may be a gift as well,
however, if they are out of your life, your life MUST carry on
in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible.
This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.
- Really thank
them (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new
discovery you have made, and the difference they DID make in your
life. Realize that THAT was their purpose for entering your life.
So now you can release them with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion,
dignity, and grace.
- Someone that
I personally know that is going through the throws of emotional
agony in trying to let go of a relationship that just ended said:
"We need to know WHY We SHOULD Let THEM GO TO BEGIN WITH!”
Answer is so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that
you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly
well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!
should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting
on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don’t you
really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do!
Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then
you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner
peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.
can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and
I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier
for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.
you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you
are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: “Hey, get me
out of this, because IT HURTS!” And the only way to remove yourself
from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE
like keeping your hand halfway in boiling water! If you take your
hand out completely, and heal it, then you will be free from pain.
choose to keep dipping your fingers into boiling water, this is
the same as continuing to return to a painful relationship. One
is physical pain, and the other is emotional.
is no judgment at all. So please do NOT judge yourself for allowing
yourself to be treated far less than you deserve. The only thing
that matters is what you do from THIS moment forward. Love yourself
– a LOT!
- The only
one you will EVER need is YOU. The only one that will NEVER leave
you is YOU. So place ALL of your energy on being and expressing
all you came into this life for. It is NOT about them – it is
all about you and your growth. That is the most important thing.
Now you have learned more, and realized more. You have evolved
more as a result of all you have been through. As you come to
fully awaken to all of your grand possibilities, you really won’t
have the time, or the care to focus your attention on a past situation.
It is like focusing on anything else that is in the past. NOW
is your time to re-claim yourself, and shine as the beacon that
you are. You will feel so much better once you take all of the
above steps – as long as you really apply them.
By Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved.
Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author
of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being
THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming
Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group
publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self
Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual
consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings
through information to create the highest vision of your life, and
our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published
articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled
private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across
enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help
you become your highest self, visit Barbara’s website: http://www.borntoinspire.com
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