looked back on past relationships and said, “What was I thinking”.
Problem is, you weren’t thinking. You were caught up in the
chemistry and the wonderful feelings of the moment that you
chose to overlook some warning signs that there may be trouble
up ahead. Here is a list of things to look out for when dating:
PHONE USE: There’s a new disease in town. It’s called “cell
phoneitis”. People afflicted with this cannot tear themselves
away from their cell phones. They’ll accept a call 24/7. Being
out with someone like this can be annoying. It’s almost like
you’re not even there. If you start dating someone and find
out they have this disease, you can point out your displeasure
- ONE TIME ONLY. If they persist, forget them. It’s rude and
disrespectful behavior on their part and we don’t tolerate that,
now do we?
BEHAVIOR: If you want to know what someone is really like,
be a passenger in a car with them. To quote an online traffic
school: The stronger the self-image that drivers have, the less
threatened they will be by what happens around them. Identifying
with one's vehicle is a symptom of a weak ego. Insecure people
imagine everything that happens on the road is a direct threat
to them personally. Someone cuts them off, and they must retaliate:
"Who do those people think they are to cut me off?" The irrational
thoughts of insecure people can keep them constantly upset.
Gee, this sounds just like the type of person I’d like to date.
ME!: I once met a guy that had a one track mind. That is,
all that was on his mind was himself. He went on and on about
all his accomplishments. I thought it was finally turning around
when he said: Enough about me, tell me about you. Before I could
get a word out, he was back to his favorite subject! Yup, himself!!
What a total turnoff. I think guys are guiltier of this than
girls. Sorry. Guys know that some women will be impressed by
what they’ve done, who they know, etc. They go on and on thinking
they’re getting somewhere (closer to the bedroom?). Smart women
don’t fall for this. We want to engage in a conversation. If
we want to see a one man play, we’ll go to the theatre!
Don’t you just love hanging out with someone that is always
complaining? Ah yes, the joys of seeing the glass as half empty.
There’s always something wrong or someone that has done them
wrong. Arrive at their pity party with some cheese for their
whine if you plan to stick around. If not, RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A PSYCHO/HE’S A JERK: If you believe in the law of attraction
(we attract/are attracted to that which we are), and the person
you start to date says their ex was a psycho or a jerk, what
does that make them? You guessed it. Does that mean you too
are a psycho or a jerk? Only if you choose to stick around.
Just remember, one day YOU will be the psycho or jerk they’ll
be complaining about to someone else.
CALLING: I’m surprised at how many people put up with this.
What is one of the main reasons for being in a relationship?
Because your life is enhanced as a result of that person being
in it. Does being called a bitch or a loser make your life better?
I can understand someone saying that you’re being a bitch or
you’re acting bitchy, but the next time someone says “Bitch!”
to you, you’re only answer should be, “You’re right. I am a
bitch. I’m a Babe In Total Control of Herself” as you walk out
the door forever.
SEX: In all my years of dating, I’ve only run across one
guy that didn’t want to do oral. In general, girls may have
more of an issue with it than guys. Either way, it’s not a good
sign, especially if it’s important to you. I have a girlfriend
whose husband refuses to do it. The poor girl has been relegated
to just dreaming about it when she’s asleep. Since oral sex
is an acceptable part of sex in the 21st century, if someone
is unwilling to partake, they obviously have issues. Whether
you stick around to see if they’re willing to work on those
depends on you, but just keep in mind that this is always a
UP: We’ve all hung up on someone or had someone hang up
on us. However, at a certain point, we grow up and realize we
can’t just go around hanging up on people when we’re upset or
frustrated with them. The proper way to deal with this situation
is to say something like, “I don’t want to talk to you right
now. I’m going to hang up. Bye.” If you’re finally at this point
and someone hangs up on you, you may think twice about dating
them. There are bound to be other maturity issued involved.
If however, you’re still hanging up on people and someone hangs
up on you, then stay together. Those of us that have grown up
don’t need you on the dating scene bothering us.
OPERAS: This is mainly with respect to guys. Soap operas
are the television equivalent of Harlequin romances and just
like Secret deodorant, they may be “strong enough for a man,
but they’re made for a woman.” I just don’t think guys have
any business watching soap operas (sorry CBS, NBC and ABC) unless
they are actually on the show and they want to check their “performance”.
YOU: Anyone that is professing their “love” within a few
weeks or a few months of meeting you is being insincere and
immature. You have to know someone before you can truly love
them. Yet people are throwing this phrase around left and right
and before you know it, the relationship is over. It’s better
to err on the side of caution and take too long to say it than
to rush it. Of course I don’t have to tell you that yelling
this out for the first time during a moment of “passion” doesn’t
two things that separate me from almost everyone reading this:
Awareness and attitude. I’m aware of the red flags and I have
the attitude that I will not stick around once I see them. Now
that your awareness has been raised, what will YOUR attitude