Flags In Dating Relationships
by Terri Arnold (Spicy Grandma)
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Red Flags In Dating Relationships
a new relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook
some behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for the
future. Then, down the road, comes the exclamation ‘If I had only
known...’. As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women
and a few men in the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling
sessions we can always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous
character traits to the very start of the relationship.
Here are some
‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.
- He makes
decisions about where to go with little or no input from you.
- He belittles
your opinion when the two of you are alone and may call you names.
- He makes
disparaging remarks about you in front of others and may talk
about you as if you were not there.
- He may be
rough during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not
- He does not
want to spend time with your friends or family and insists you
socialize with his people.
- He will not
acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put down what you
do in the workplace - ignore any of your accomplishments.
- He may openly
flirt with other women and then accuse you of being jealous when
- He gets angry
and loses his temper over trivialities. Stays angry for a long
time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.
- May hit walls
- One of the
main factors is that he comes on very strong in the beginning
of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet - and wants an
exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women feel flattered
at the intensity of the man’s seeming need for an immediate connection
and consequently overlook the inappropriateness of it.
not be confused with ‘love at first sight’ where one or both
parties feel an instant connection - without any of the aforementioned
There are many
other factors that could be listed - but if the man in your life
begins displaying the above qualities - realize it will not get
better, only worse. He will likely be unwilling to discuss his emotions
openly and feel that women are the inferior sex.
If this describes
your man, run - do not walk - out of his life. The next step will
likely be physical abuse.
Terri Arnold (Spicy Grandma)
Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist for over twenty
years. She has owned and operated a brick and mortar dating service
and has also helped abused women thru individual and group counseling
to improve their self esteem, leave their abusive relationships
and lead more fulfilling lives. Terri invites you to visit her popular
personalized and informative 50+ dating community at www.spicy-senior-singles.com.
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