Misconception of Soul Mates
by Barbara Rose
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Misconception of Soul Mates
Divine Source through Barbara Rose
conception of the term “soul mate” is completely contrary to what
the term really means. Imagine two gallons of water taken from the
Atlantic Ocean. Both gallons consist of the same energy because
they were both part of the same ocean. Yet each gallon will have
its own experience separate from the other. Now imagine a soul in
the nonphysical realm that chooses to experience different aspects
of itself by inhabiting two different people. Those people consist
of the same energy as that one soul: they are soul mates.
on planet Earth do not meet their true soul mates; to do so, to
reach the stage where the gift of reunion becomes manifest requires
lifetimes of growth and evolution. So far, only about two percent
of the human population have actually met their true soul mates.
When most people
think of soul mates, they picture a man and woman walking in some
eternal garden of mental, emotional, and physical paradise right
here on Earth, without a day’s worry or tearful eye. But as those
who have met their soul mates will attest, this picture of a garden
of eternal, blissful paradise is anything but the truth. Yet, once
the challenges of their special union have been met successfully,
it becomes the truth.
How will you
know if yours is indeed a union of soul mates? I will tell you.
* How it feels
to be in a union of soul mates
From the moment
you meet, there is a certain familiarity, a knowing you cannot describe
in words. In the beginning of your relationship, you do, in fact,
feel as if you were in heaven on Earth. You feel love, a union,
as if you were a perfect match, which you are. You blend on all
levels and in all ways. You feel that you share something unique,
something mysterious yet so familiar. You understand each other
instinctively, intuitively, and easily, as if you had known each
other for eons, as indeed you have.
You see right
through to each other’s core, and you see each other’s best. Each
of you is amazed, captivated, even overcome by the other’s energy,
intelligence, grace, and natural abilities; yet, at the same time,
you see all of the other’s weaknesses, the areas in which growth
is needed. You are not bothered by these weaknesses, however, because
you know or believe the other has what it would take to meet these
challenges and grow through them.
Your bond is
akin to white on rice. You fit together hand in custom-made glove.
And, despite being so alike, you embody vast differences. Certainly
biological differences: one male, one female. And perhaps intellectual
differences: you may be at opposite ends of the intellectual spectrum,
with one of you scientifically inclined and the other, spiritual.
Yet in your core you each carry and sustain a comfort level, a feeling
of safety and innate understanding you can never put into words.
For how can you possibly describe understanding the very depths
of one another such a short time after your physical meeting in
this life. You cannot. It is inherent. Natural. It simply is.
And it is what
you share: your souls, your energy, how in sync you are with each
other, how you can sometimes finish each other’s sentences, how
you have a psychic connection that you have never experienced before.
When you are together, you do, in fact, feel you are in your own
heaven, your own paradise. You are, after all, with your true other
half, so, naturally, you feel as natural with the other and, at
times, understand the other more than you understand your self.
Do you know why?
chose to meet in this life to grow. This is where the challenges
come into play.
* How the soul-mate
reunion brings profound growth and transformation
A short while
after your blissful bond becomes intense, the challenges – the true
reasons why you chose to meet again and join physically in this
life – come to the surface. Havoc ensues.
Surely you are
not on this Earth to stagnate but to grow. And so ruffles appear
within the relationship. But the ruffles have a purpose: they bring
to your attention those areas within that each of you must confront,
work through, and ultimately heal. No one but your true soul mate
could intuitively pull out from your core depths those precise areas
that need to grow and heal.
Of course growth
is uncomfortable; it is far easier to stagnate. Therefore, you may
find yourselves engaged in a tug of war. You may even break up temporarily.
But no matter how hard you try, you cannot ever escape the truth
of your natural bond. That bond, made up of the energy and chemistry
you share with your soul mate, can never be broken. Because you
cannot escape the truth, you have to face it; And when you do, you
reap great rewards indeed. When you try to deny or turn away from
the reasons you chose to be with your true match, however, you put
yourself through unnecessary pain.
It is precisely
those areas of growth that you are meant to confront, work through,
and heal – the areas your true match has gotten you to notice –
that make you to want to run and hide.
you can’t hide from the truth, you begin, slowly, to realize that
yes, you do have issues, core issues that you deserve to heal. And
your soul mate sees those issues quite clearly, but they do not
bother him or her nearly as much as they bother you. They are simply
your deepest challenges; once you meet them, they are healed. Then
you experience once again so much of that heaven on Earth the two
of you had at the beginning of your relationship.
challenges is like trying to fight the current of a powerful river.
That river is your soul, trying to carry you home to that place
of wholeness within where the false views and perceptions of self
are finally healed.
current is fighting the course you chose in order to heal. Meeting
your soul mate is the gift that enables you to heal those aspects
of your being you have been longing to heal.
has been set in motion only because you chose to meet your true
other half in this life, to experience the healed, validated, and
wonderful being that you are. It is in sharing your growth process
with the one who has the same energy you do, the one with whom you
fit so perfectly, that you are able to see that process in action.
It is then that you experience that heaven-on-earth feeling and,
together, experience the perfect fit again. The paradox is that
in order to maintain that fit, you must heal that part within which
no longer serves your evolutionary growth.
of eons past no longer fit. So, in this life, you chose to meet
the one who you knew from the beginning was your perfect match.
Fight as you
may, that truth shall always be there. And, more than you can imagine,
your soul mate is rooting for you to grow. Grow through and heal
the false views of self that hinder your evolution, that cause you
to stagnate unnecessarily in a life into which you were born to
live, experience, explore, thrive, and share the essence of yourself.
You try to run,
but you cannot. Your heart longs for that one person, that one true
match who understands you so and whose love is so pure. You have
known that all along. And though you may feel you do not deserve
that love, this feeling is a fallacy.
We all deserve
love, soul mate or not.
So, you have
challenges that you have chosen to overcome. And there, by your
side, is this person who, for some reason you cannot understand,
has not told you to go away a long time ago. The reason is that
they are a part of you. They share your energy. They are rooting
for you. Once you decide to overcome your growth challenges, then
and only then will you receive the true bliss of the soul-mate reunion.
The price is
honest work on self, removing all old, ingrained, negative patterns
that no longer serve you, so you can finally experience the true
you, the you that you have been working to achieve for many lifetimes
in your evolutionary process. The rewards are indescribable.
Like you, your
soul mate has his own issues, which you pull out from within his
very core. Every time he tries to run away from facing his responsibility
to self, to work through and heal his issues, there you pop up again.
So you are each
faced with a choice. Avoid self growth, and leave your true match
behind, never to be forgotten, always to be longed for – or face
those aspects within yourself, work on them, and heal them so you
are finally and truly free of them. Then you will have your special
and perfect match by your side for the remainder of this life. That
is the choice.
By Barbara Rose. All Rights Reserved.
Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author
of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being
THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man"and "Individual Power: Reclaiming
Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group
publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self
Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.
works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual
consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings
through information to create the highest vision of your life, and
our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published
articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled
private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across
enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help
you become your highest self, visit Barbara’s website: http://www.borntoinspire.com
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