Dating Ė My First Time
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Dating Ė My First Time
Okay. Iíll take
a look, but Iím not saying that Iím going to participate in online
dating just yet. Iíve heard the success stories and the horror stories
about online dating, but I do not have any first hand experience
to share with you on the topic.
What I plan
to do in this article is take you with me while I explore the different
online dating services available on the web. Brace yourself and
buckle your seatbelt, Iím going to try something I saw in a cartoon.
Thatís something I like to say to the passengers in my car just
before I start to drive. Maybe thatís part of the reason Iím having
dating problems in the first place.
Okay, the first
website I discovered says itís a ďfreeĒ online dating service. Online,
red flags always go up for me when someone says that magic word,
ďfreeĒ. But, letís take a closer look.
Well, it sounds
good. It says it is, ďan internet dating service that provides a
comfortable and intimate environment where you can safely and conveniently
search and find your perfect soul mate, while having lots of fun.
Thousands of dating ads of singles that are looking for dating romance,
intimacy and friendship is available for you to browse through.
Your ideal companion might be among them. (site name deleted) brings
dating to new frontiers, making impossible, possible!Ē
Iím having a
little trouble with the comfortable and intimate environment thing.
They havenít seen the room my computer sits in. Safe and convenient
sounds nice though. But if the website is just a lot of personal
ads, canít I just get something like that at my local news stand
or in my local newspaper?
I think Iíll
move on and take a look to see if there are online dating services
that provide more than dating advice and personal ads.
Hmm, now I find
myself on an online dating website that claims to be the biggest
online dating service on the web. It has a big picture of Dr. Phil
on the front. Almost scared me away, but Iíll tough it out and stay
to see what they offer.
Here is what
they say, ďLooking for more in a relationship and a dating site?
With over 10 years of experience in online dating and relationships,
(site name deleted) is the worldwide leader in online dating and
relationships. Where else can you find millions of singles looking
for love, just like you? We don't offer just online personals, we
are personal in our offerings - to help you find a date, a relationship,
I said I might try online dating. I never said anything about marriage!
And now I have the mental image of ďmillions of singles looking
for loveĒ. Wow! Millions. Okay, so they sound big, but what do they
off, they donít really tell you much about the services they provide.
Just a lot of information about the millions who have gotten married
through their online dating service. So I bit the bullet and went
to the sign up form to learn more.
Now comes the
money question. $29.95 for a month or I can get discounts for longer
memberships. Then there is the Dr. Phil MindFindBind program that
costs more. Now Iím laughing because since I am checking the online
dating service out while typing this article, I evidently have waited
too long to make my decision because a popup just came up to offer
me assistance with making up my mind.
They do have
some free services, but those are basically, create a profile, look
at profiles, etc. Thatís just like the free services on the first
online dating website. You have to pay for the ability to actually
respond to any emails sent to you by other members or block members
or to see which members have taken a peek at your profile. That
all sounds okay, but if you go for the whole Dr. Phil package you
get an online dating tutorial, a video about online dating, online
dating workshops, and online dating advice. Wow!
Well, as I said,
I havenít decided just yet, so we are going to check out one more
online dating website together. Okay, this one is free. They have
a patent pending on their matchmaking idea. They calculate your
matchability in percentages.
The online dating
method they use goes like this, ďWhen you answer a question in our
improve matches area we learn: (1) your answer, (2) how you'd like
someone else to answer, and (3) how important the question is to
you. We collect these three values for all users.
Your match percentage
with a given person on (site name deleted), let's call him b, is
based on the values of (1), (2),and (3) for questions you've both
answered. We'll call that set S later in this explanation:Ē Wow!
I thought that just regular dating was complicated.
I think Iím
going to keep checking out more online dating websites until I find
the one that is right for me. So far, the ones we just toured have
been too much like personal ads, too expensive, too Dr. Phillish
for my tastes, or too complicated. Iím sure though, just like finding
the right date, there is an online dating website out there for
me and one for you too!
you to at least try online dating. But donít stop at the first online
dating service you find, just like hopefully you wouldnít stop at
the first singles bar you saw. Check out as many as you need to
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