Dating For Dummies
by HM Hovis
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have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting
out, you could always use a bit of dating advice. Not the kind you
get from your mother, but rather the kind that actually might get
you past the first date, on to the 2nd and perhaps on to a happily
So you have
decided to date and you are thinking about the "online dating" thing?
Well, why not. To be cliche' everyone is doing it! In today's action
packed, hustle, bustle world, who had time or energy to meet the
traditional ways. Online meeting has become a norm, and is gaining
Profile Many online dating services offer assistance in writing
your profile, if you are not a good writer then this may be something
you should consider. Before you sit down to write your profile,
find out how others see you, so that you can more adequately describe
yourself as you are seen. (You don't see yourself as others do -
probably) The best way to do this is ask around. You don't have
to tell anyone why - just ask for one word that describes your looks,
work habits, home environment etc get a list and go from there.
Chances are you will come closer to a good description of yourself
that way than any other way.
To Post a Picture
or Not To Post - That is the question Well are you photogenic? You
know even if you aren't there has to be a picture somewhere of you
that looks good. Find it! Whoever said a picture is worth a thousand
words knew what the were talking about. And let's face it - this
is a shallow society - we are attracted by looks in addition to
pleny of other things - but looks are definetly high on the list.
Not putting up a picture leads to suspicion of whether you are attractive
or not - what's wrong with you! Put it up there.
Dating Services, Trials, and Charges You get what you pay for -
most of the time. Most of the online dating services charge. It's
a huge market - just doesn't seem like it when you are actually
trying to find a date does it? The best thing to do is find a trial
service, or a service that allows you to wink or send eye contact
or a smile to another party to let them know you are interested.
So if you both just send that and then it goes nowhere you have
to decide - are they worth the fee to join the site to find out
more. If you do decide to join, keep in mind that most of these
sites won't let the other person respond without also having a membership.
That does not mean however that you can't send them an alternate
method of contacting you. There is nothing more frustrating than
being contacted by someone you would like to write back to, but
no way to do that unless you also join. Is it worth the fees? Some
site editors are not too bright either and you can sneak little
ways into your profile that allow future interested parties a way
to find you. Such as saying something like - "I have the same name
where the little yellow man is" would tell someone that your username
at AOL would be the same as your username on the profile and they
might then contact you without you either one buying a membership.
If you choose
to post on more than one site, try to spice each profile up a bit
differently. No one wants to read the same thing twice, and what
you might have missed out on saying in one profile may be the thing
that catches someone's attention on another profile. Use different
What to be Cautious
of Online meeting has allowed us to move a bit faster than traditional
dating. Your inhibitions all fall down when you are sitting behind
a computer screen and you can do or say or flirt however you want
and it's not as difficult as it is face to face. What that usually
leads to is assuming you know someone better than you normally would
before you've ever had that first date - but beware - their inhibitions
were down too and they may have come across a lot greater than they
Do You Take
Down Your Profile When You Meet Someone? Well - did they take down
their profile? If they did, and you are serious about being exclusive,
then you should take down your profile. (on all the sites you have
it up on) But if they haven't and you aren't then leave it up. Think
how many fish swimming around in the sea might nibble on your bait
while you have it out there!
online and flirting and maybe even meeting up with someone is the
push you need to get out more and enjoy life. Maybe it leads to
happily ever after. Whatever it leads to enjoy it and yourself!
© HM Hovis
Hovis holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Mass Communication with
an emphasis in Public Relations. As a gifted writer, she writes
both for fun and for work.
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